No. Not. The. Talk. is a full audio-based course that will take you from A-Z when it comes to talking to your kids about their bodies and about sex. But don't let the word "course" scare you. The content is humorous, relatable, and conversational. We would never want to bore our clients with just boring facts that you could find in an encyclopedia. Our goal is to create an environment that helps our participants feel as if they're sitting around the table with friends while having a cup of coffee, having a chat.
Shannon's expertise is research. So everything you hear in Not. The. Talk. is evidence-based, rock-solid and up-to-date research-based information. Though you will get to know us and our individual personalities as you move through Not. The. Talk., we decided early on that we didn't want our personal opinions to cloud the course or get in the way of our learners. Only you can decide what is best for your family and we would never want to presume otherwise!
No! We would never presume to know your personal values when it comes to sex. Not. The. Talk. is directed only toward parents, though you may find that some of the audio or animated videos would be helpful for your kids to view at your discretion. But ultimately, no one will do a better job of teaching your kids than YOU!
Not. The. Talk. is an investment of your time and money. But the ability to confidently convey the full range of facts, and your family’s unique values in a natural and even humorous way...is truly priceless! Much like a professionally based or hospital based course, Not. The. Talk. is a complete educational course. Parents can begin Not. The. Talk. with little to no knowledge of how to properly speak to kids about sex, and leave the course feeling like a confident pro! That is our passion and our mission, and that is invaluable!
The course will never expire! We want parents to be able to listen to the course and then reference back as needed anytime!
We've got you! In Not. The. Talk. we provide dialogue, written scripts, anatomy graphics, and animated video examples of what it looks like to have confident, comfortable, frequent conversations with your children related to their bodies and sex.
There’s a lot more to “the talk” than just sex. We have talked to A LOT of parents about this topic, both before and after completing Not. The. Talk. A majority of the parents we have interviewed initially thought they had talked to their kids about sex, but later realized that there is so much more to the story than teaching their kids about intercourse. One thing they all had in common was that they all later realized they weren't doing quite as good of a job of having these difficult conversations as they had initially believed. Not. The. Talk. has truly transformed "the talk" from a nerve-wracking-sweaty-palm-conversation to a relaxed and normal part of everyday life for these families. They realized that if they could master THIS conversation, then they could talk to their kids about anything!
No. Though Shannon and I are both believers, this is not a Christian-based course. For one, we wanted this to help all families, not only families of one particular faith. And two, we know that values within the church are vastly different. Even Shannon and I, who were born into the same family don't agree on everything (okay, maybe quite a lot). But guess what? That's okay! We found a way to present the facts to families and then help them determine their own values. It's a beautiful thing!
The earlier you start naturally working these conversations in, the better. After all, they start learning their bodies on the changing table! Start talking to them about their bodies early, talk to them about appropriate touch. The earlier you start, the more naturally the conversations will grow as they grow! The research actually shows that the ideal time to teach your kids about sex is by the age of 6. That's surprising to a lot of people! The reason that we want to talk to kids by the age of 6 is because it will only get more uncomfortable as they get older. Does that mean that they need to know everything there is to know by the age of 6? Definitely not! However, it is ideal that they know pretty much everything by the time they're entering middle school. You can probably already guess why...because if mom and dad haven't talked to them yet, their friends will. That may even be how you personally learned about sex, and everyone knows that's not ideal. It's best that the facts and the values relayed come from mom and dad. It's harder for them to unlearn something that was taught to them incorrectly than it is for us as parents to make the first impression.
Fear not! It's never too late. Okay, if they're walking down the aisle and you haven't had "the talk" yet....it might be too late. But otherwise, pick up the conversation regardless of how old they are. You are not alone. Most parents feel that their kids are too young to learn about sex. We don't want to believe that our babies are growing up! You may have to make up for some lost time, but it's never too late to start having these critical conversations with them.
You and every other parent! You are not alone in this, and that is why we built Not. The. Talk. in the first place. Most generations have not done this conversation well. Parents don't avoid "the talk" because they don't care, but because they don't have the language to be able to talk to their kids. But now they do! Listen to the course, and we promise you will leave feeling confident and ready to start changing the language for your kids, and for the generations to come.
We know how busy parents are, and we specifically designed the course with this in mind. Not. The. Talk. was created to meet parents where they are...whether it's while sitting in the carpool line, while driving to work, just before going to bed, on the treadmill, while vacuuming the rug...whenever and wherever! In fact, the busier you are, the more time you will have to listen!
One time I downloaded an online course...and I HATED it. I couldn't stand the woman's voice. It wasn't her, it was me, but that didn't change the fact that I knew I couldn't spend hours with her in my ear. If you get into the course and decide you don't like it, we'll refund 100% of your investment. No questions asked. No harm no foul.